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Have you ever hit a wall with your:

• -workout routine
• -spiritual rituals
• -foods you eat
• -and others?

Me too!

Recently, I found myself in a rut when it comes to moving my body, feeding myself nutritious foods, and even my spiritual practices.

I have come out of the other side and wanted to share some things you could try if you are struggling in this way, too.

Things To Try When You Are Feeling Uninspired

1. First, just allow yourself to be in this rut. It won’t last forever, and the harder you are on yourself, the worse it will feel. Try to ride it out before problem solving.     
2. Ask Tik Tok
   • Really! I have been wanting to try some new foods, so I went to Tik Tok and searched hashtags I wanted to learn more about. I am personally interested in adding more smoothies to my diet, but you could search for anything! Once you figure out what you are wanting to find, type the terms into the “search” box. You’ll be amazed at how many videos with step by step guides come up.
3. Tell a friend
   • Support from loved ones is so important when we’re in a funk. Reaching out and telling someone who we know cares about us will help us to feel like we’re not alone. They might also come up with some ingenius ideas for you to try.
4. Show yourself some compassion
   • Reminding yourself that all people struggle from time to time can do so much for your mental health. No one is in this alone. Check out Insight Timer for some great meditations on self care and self compassion, like this one.
5. Take on small step toward your goals
   • Even doing something like visualizing yourself completing the task that has been on your list can help nudge you toward achieving it. Do one little thing to bring you closer. For instance, if moving your body is something that has felt very uninspiring, close your eyes and see yourself moving in a way that is fun. Then, take a small step toward that goal, like putting your running shoes on. See if you then feel like going for a walk. If not, no pressure. Try again tomorrow.

I hope these ideas sparked some hope for you to be able to take an uninspiring moment in time and help yourself through it.

Healing doesn’t come in a one size fits all approach.

Knowing yourself on a deep level can help reveal what the solution to your pain is.

I am grateful to know some of the ways that I can fill my cup and feel truly replenished.

And, I was lucky enough to be able to indulge in one of those ways earlier this month: solo travel.

I went to the Omni Homestead Resort in Hot Springs, VA, and it was just what I needed to come back home, clear and ready to serve my clients.

I knew I wanted time in the spa, so I booked a few services for myself. Additionally, I wanted to take advantage of the hot springs on the grounds. Gratefully, when spa services are used, using the hot springs is included in that price. There were so many ways for me to get what I needed there.

For me, it is necessary to slow down to speed up in order to gain clarity and figure out where I’m going, what I want, what I am committed to, and importantly, what to release so I don’t feel held back or held down.

But, something unexpected happened the first day.

Judgement time!

I was judging myself and the process when I arrived, thinking “who am I to be here?” “Who the f** do I think I am to stay here?” And it went on like that for about 1 day.

When I noticed myself doing this, I had to ask myself if it was worth it. I had planned this trip, made the space in my calendar, and I was finally there! I realized I was robbing myself of the experience by being so harsh in my mental space.

It was important to me that I allow myself to receive this gift from my past self, who set this all up for me.

I knew I had to learn to trust myself.

So, I decided to get clear.

I pulled myself oracle cards, and read the messages. Exploring the property and indulging in food were also activities that helped to ground me. Conversation with strangers who became new friends was a life saver. And, of course, soaking in the hot springs was what this trip was all about.

On this trip, I realized I am worthy and I can take care of myself.

It is all of our jobs to take responsibility for our feelings so we can have a fruitful life.

While it took me being on a vacation to have this opportunity to practice this lesson, it can happen literally anywhere at any time.

What is one lesson you are trying to pull from a life circumstance? Let me know in the comments or send me an email at elise@elisekindya.com

 

Life Hack Alert!

I think that to know where you are wanted, and to go there, is the biggest life hack.

Do you trust that your people are out there? I promise that they are.

There is no point in trying to get in where you don’t fit in. It hurts you and wastes your energy.

Life flows way more easily when we’re surrounded by support, understanding, love and acceptance.

How can you tell where you’re wanted?

There are many ways to know that you’re in the right place and with your people.

I think there are a few giveaways that could include the following:

🎤 communication flows easily
💗you feel safe
🫂 gestures are reciprocal
🔮 you can rely on them to keep their word

Going where you’re wanted has long-lasting effects

What do you think the impact of feeling safe and loved is?

According to leading neuroscience expert Dr. Bruce Perry, feeling safe and loved is foundational to healthy brain development in infants and children. These feelings literally set the stage for the rest of our lives.

If you grew up in a household that was safe and loving, you can keep building those blocks that were laid in childhood.

But, what if you didn’t?

There is good news. We have what’s called “neuroplasticity“- our brains are “plastic” and can change with repetition. Especially if you put feeling and emotion behind the changes you are implementing, you will have lasting results.

Hope

Go where you feel good, where you’re wanted, where you come alive. And life will flow much more easily, freely and with purpose.