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Have you heard?

I published a journal on Amazon!

You can get your very own copy (and one for a friend) by clicking here.

Journaling is one of my all-time favorite self-care activities. It helps me so much to ground my energy from my very active mind, through a pen onto a page. It just feels so good.

This special journal that I created has a mix of blank pages( (with 5mm dots to help with drawing and more!) as well as journaling prompts to get the juices flowing.

Writing is proven to help you get organized, improve your mood, and know what areas of life you want to take action on.

And this is coming at the best time of the year for getting cozy- winter!

Have you tried journaling? What do you think about it?

 

Holy smokes! It’s been almost two months since I last logged on here to post. 😱

So much has happened in this time.

I have decided to participate in a coaching program that is helping me think through some new offerings I would like to create for new clients.

🙈 While it’s been fun, it’s also scary.

Change at any level and in any area is scary.

We are creatures of habit and we want things to stay the same, to live in our comfort zones.

And yet, as humans, we strive for self-actualization. We strive for growth.

But, in reality, our comfort zones will kill us.

They kill the fun.

They kill the excitement. They kill the joy and the forward momentum.

🦄 This is why I have decided to bust through my comfort zone, break out of my rut, and have some fun while doing it.

I also need to be gentle with myself, because this is scary stuff!

Feel the fear and do it anyway.

💪 I am choosing me, my life, my expansion and my joy while also being afraid.

I know that on the other side of this, is an offering that will also help new clients who come my way. And that is very important to me.

You see, my mission in life is to raise the consciousness of the planet. I want to do this by facilitating spaces where people feel safe enough to turn toward the parts of themselves that they (used to) think were unloveable, wrong, dirty, and shameful.

The truth is, we are all more alike than different. We all have things we would like to stay hidden.

But, it is in being seen, heard and validated for who we truly are that our lives can actually take off and become the imperfect perfection that we are meant for.

How Deep Is Your Love?

Sure, it’s the title of songs by The Bee Gee’s and Calvin Harris, but I’m honestly asking you this question.

How deep is your (self) love? Do you think that self love is helpful or hurtful?

It depends who you ask.

According to world renowned psychologist and the developer of this approach, Carl Rogers, unconditional positive regard is fundamental to healthy human development. It is imperative for people to feel safe in order to encourage ourselves to push past our comfort zones and grow. This is a need that develops before birth, in the womb, and continues into infancy childhood and even carries into adulthood.

Further, the work of Dr. Kristin Neff and Dr. Christopher Germer in the realm of self-compassion further expands on the need for love, care and understanding from within.

Human beings are part of a collective group and belonging is akin to our very survival.

Is your inner critic loud?

Many people experience difficulty when first approaching the work of self-love and self compassion.

Perhaps you did not receive the understanding you needed as a young person.

Do you remember hearing the words “Suck it up,” “Get over it,” “You’re so weird,” or other similar mocking statements directed toward you?

Maybe you identify as “The Black Sheep”, never fitting in anywhere quite right.

If so, try to offer yourself understanding in this moment. Reach the olive branch of peace to yourself, in your mind and heart.

You are allowed to belong, if even just in your own life. Make space for your unique self to thrive and shine.

Just because it feels weird, doesn’t mean you don’t need it.

No matter who you are, you deserve understanding.

If it feels foreign to offer yourself unconditional positive regard, compassion, or love, then this is a clue into an area you actually need a heavy focus and intentional offering of these exact qualities in your life.

Think about caring for anything- a plant, a child, a pet, a significant other, a retirement account, preparing a meal. Does it do better with attention, or neglect? You are the exact same and deserve the same amount of care and attention.

My challenge to you

See if you can offer yourself a kind word once a day for 7 days. Use a journal to record how you feel before offering yourself kindness, and after. Then compare your writings from the beginning of the week to the end of the week. See what changes you can notice, whether they are subtle or obvious.